The Pain of Change

The Pain of Change

Change is the only constant in our lives, from conception to our departure, we are in a constant state of flux. As we grow and mature we enter different stages, each requiring another, different aspect of ourselves.

In the formative years, from one to seven our organic natural development can be hijacked by traumatic events, locking us into that stage of our human evolution. A stage we continue to recycle. Our continued growth into a mature fully functioning human is inhibited, a part of us stays stuck. We become unable or unwilling to change due to our desire to stop the pain, the hurt.

We view our lives as linear, from conception, in a straight line to our departure. As real as this may seem, it is a delusion, our lives are a spiral, every seven years returning to, and re-triggering issues from our past that warrant healing. In the modern era this is not well understood and we end up suffering from our lack of understanding.

Western culture has an understanding of the importance of “Saving Face” in Asian culture, yet we are mostly ignorant of the same principles our own culture and lives. Most people Hate to be shown up or exposed for doing it wrong. It is easier to believe a lie than admit we have been lied too. Watch any person driven by fear or those disposed to Taking, the service to self group to see the strong negative reaction to being outed.

Accepting our Unwillingness to Change, Learn or admit We Are Wrong takes a higher level of honesty than is possible for most people, especially who’re suffering under the heavy hand of Lies, Deceit and Trauma. If we look back to the twentieth Century it is easy to see the high levels of trauma inflicted on humanity.

When as a society we take off our blinkers, find the courage to confront the dark side of our collective actions, life does not look so rosy. It is far easier, but no the less painful, too pretend things are OK than to accept we need to address our own inner daemons.

We live in a dualistic universe, yet we pretend or focus on the side we are willing to accept. Some live in the delusion that everything is perfect, others focus on their darker side – either expressing it inwardly or outwardly. Whether we address our errors and mistakes or save face and pretend, we suffer. We either embrace and heal our pain or we live with it, blaming some outside force for our unfortunate position in life.

When on the road to self healing and taming the daemons we are going to encounter hurt and pain. Moving forward in the least stressful way lies in the discovery we may not actually know the solution or that the problem actually involves us. We may be in a state of unconscious incompetence – we do not know what we do not know. Some the solution is hidden deep below levels of not knowing, it takes a lot of effort and courage to pick up the shovel and dig. Or maybe we might need a D9 dozer and a truck of explosives to loosen it from its hiding place.

Our whole world is currently built on a Great Lie, to begin the journey of discovery toward truth is going to put us at odds with the ways things are done. It means stepping beyond our little scared, enslaved selves and walk the path of integrity and self truth. It means addressing our unwillingness to change, recognising our unconscious incompetence. It is coming to a place of believing, “I Can Do This”. Or that we are bigger than any problem that confronts us. We hold within us the Solution, whether we accept this truth or not.

Living the Lie is easier than addressing the Issue and removing the blocks that hold us back. The moment we step onto the path of self healing, we will be assailed by all those around us who do not want us to change and will do all they can to keep us stuck. It is for their own self protection, not ours. This is where Who Do You Listen To, becomes important. It comes as a shock when we discover who are true friends are, or aren’t.

As Florence Shovel Shin states, Life is a Game and Neville Goddard points out Life is a Play and we are director, producer, choreographer and the main actor. Understand these basic truths and we all begin to comprehend the power within us to be Who And What We Are Meant To Be.

Whether we are willing or unwilling to Change, life will bring us Pain and limitation. We either use it to enrich our lives or to enslave ourselves. The choice, in the end is solely ours. This is a painful truth – yet liberating.

Nothing stays the same – Nothing. We can resist all we like, but change will either be accepted or forced upon us. We really have no choice but to embrace change and experience the ride.

The Pain of Change