Humanity is facing the greatest level of change in our known history. Technology is moving at an uncompromising pace, scientific discoveries are rewriting our understanding of history, the known universe and a multitude of areas that directly affect our lives.

While all this is happening, we as humans are resisting with all our might, we continue to push against the flow. We try and hold back the river of change and cling desperately to what we knew. How often do the older generations speak of the good old day ?

Change is the only certainty in life, nothing ever stays the same. There are always small unnoticed things that slowly creep into our lives, like autumn giving way to winter. One day we realise it is colder and the season has changed, we just did not notice as it happened slowly.

Life is so much simpler when we go with the flow and let our lives unfold according to the plan we are operating from. For some that is no plan, for others it is a clear outcome of how they would like their lives to be.

The consciousness of change has 4 steps:

Unconscious incompetence – we do not know what we do not know.

Conscious incompetence – we know that we do not know

Conscious competence – we know that we know

Unconscious competence – we do without thinking about it, it’s a auto pilot response.

Our first step in simplifying the Art of Change is recognising the areas of our lives where we do not know that we do not know. It is the suppressed, hidden and areas of unwillingness that we need to address to becoming aware that there are old beliefs and programmes that are no longer serving our needs. Meditation, self awareness and techniques such as Motivational Kinesiology can assist us to move from step one through to step four.

The first step is getting in touch with those areas of our lives where we are not the person we wish to be. We all have a file full of old limiting beliefs and we all have post traumatic stress in some unresolved area of our lives.

The most important point is we also all have the ability to transform our lives with less effort than many believe.

Admitting to ourselves that we do not know what we do not know begins a process to bring lasting change into our lives. Imagine trying to quit a old habit, smoking, drinking, poverty consciousness, etc. There are hidden, suppressed issues lying in our subconscious that make us choose these habits in the first place. How many times have we seen a beautiful girl with a drug using aggression boyfriend?

We look and wonder, yet the answer is simple, she is with him because she has a belief system that ties her to that energy. Maybe she had a drug using parent, (legal or illegal). The amount of sexually abused children is higher than most realise. Many parents, totally and unintentionally destroy their children’s self worth by restrictive beliefs and behaviours that were inflicted on them by their parents and role models.. We are products of an unhealthy society driven by fear, not love.

Somewhere back in the dim past  humanity took a wrong turn and it is taking a long time to some out of the dark ages and return to the light. Accepting there is stuff we do not know we do not know and being willing to explore and heal that part of ourselves starts a cascade of changes.

Within ourselves or with the help of someone else we can begin to own our wounded parts and make peace with that side of ourselves. It is important to face up and own all the parts of ourselves as it is impossible to get rid of something we have not taken ownership of. This is the principle behind Simply Love It. The whole idea is to start at a level deep enough for us to deal with and begin to love our demons.

The girl with the drug boyfriend may of had a mother who was on anti depressants and did nothing to stop her husband using the daughter to express his sexual needs. The girl grows up with a belief woman are meant to satisfy a man’s desires. She may have felt she was responsible for what was happening in the family and not for her own needs. Moving her to a place where she could Love feeling Responsible for her own needs would change her energy patterns and with time she could move into a more loving relationship with herself and others.

Depending on the intensity of the emotional/mental scarring this may occur in small steps or giant leaps. Everyone is different and every situation requires a different level of intensity.

To recap, we begin with the recognition that there are parts of us running the show, giving us outcomes we do not want. An acceptance and a willingness to change and learn takes us to the next stage. We move from unconscious incompetence to conscious incompetence. We now recognise that there is something not working and we do not know why. Using another example, we want to learn to fly a plane, we get in the pilots seat, look around and have no idea what to do. We have just gone from unconscious incompetence to conscious incompetence. We now know we have no idea so we get some help, we start studying and learning what we need to to fly the plane. We move on to conscious competence, with practice we start to do what is needed to fly the plane, we still have to think about it, but we can do it. After a couple of years of flying we do everything we need to without thinking, we run on autopilot. We moved through the steps from one to four of the art of changing.

To be continued……