Chatting with a man the other day and I mentioned Covert Bullies. He asked me to explain.
A “Covert” bully is quiet a deceptive personality. They appear to the normal person as a victim or hard done by. They are extreme;y skilled at using their “victim” status to manipulate others to do that they want. Experience has taught me to be very careful of these characters as they have a talent for twisting an issue to make you look bad and them, hard down by.
An example; Years ago in a wildlife sanctuary I was chatting with another photographer. A few days later I was approached and a demand was made to apologise to this said person for offending them. In no way did I set out to offend them, but they had chosen to use the situation to gain some form of advantage. To appease the deviant spirited person I explained I was sorry they had been offended. They went away happy that they had won and felt vindicated. Look carefully at what I had said, I never apologised. I simply played their game.
The Covert Bully is a truly disempowered character who can only gain some form of “power” by stealing energy from others. They are more common than you may think.
While playing their little power trips they only prove their lack of worth and once unmasked forego their ability to build themselves up by pulling others down.
Building a better self image and foregoing the “victim” myth will help these hapless souls recover some dignity, personal power and be a more worthwhile member of society.
They really do give people who have been to hell and back a bad rap with their fake victimhood.
